Comments on: Half-Way Out of the Closet http://www.waitingforourpod.com/2009/07/06/half-way-out-of-the-closet/ If any idiot can father a kid, does that make me a genius? Fri, 04 Jun 2010 18:49:12 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: just me http://www.waitingforourpod.com/2009/07/06/half-way-out-of-the-closet/#comment-805 just me Fri, 24 Jul 2009 01:33:55 +0000 http://www.waitingforourpod.com/?p=281#comment-805 What a fabulous post. :) What a fabulous post. :)

]]> By: Melissa G http://www.waitingforourpod.com/2009/07/06/half-way-out-of-the-closet/#comment-798 Melissa G Fri, 17 Jul 2009 05:33:13 +0000 http://www.waitingforourpod.com/?p=281#comment-798 You are such a better person than I am... When I told a friend of mine that we would probably need medical intervention to conceive. She shuttered and replied "Oh GAWD, I would be so terrified of having twins"... I quickly informed her that when it is a real possibility you might not have kids at all, twins to so sound scary. And followed that up with not everyone who goes through fertility treatments has multiples... That shut her up real quick. And damn it felt good. I'm not usually so feisty, but IF has brought out a whole new side of me... Anyway, thanks for sharing. =) You are such a better person than I am…

When I told a friend of mine that we would probably need medical intervention to conceive. She shuttered and replied “Oh GAWD, I would be so terrified of having twins”… I quickly informed her that when it is a real possibility you might not have kids at all, twins to so sound scary. And followed that up with not everyone who goes through fertility treatments has multiples…

That shut her up real quick. And damn it felt good. I’m not usually so feisty, but IF has brought out a whole new side of me…

Anyway, thanks for sharing. =)

]]> By: Xbox4NappyRash http://www.waitingforourpod.com/2009/07/06/half-way-out-of-the-closet/#comment-783 Xbox4NappyRash Thu, 09 Jul 2009 18:24:10 +0000 http://www.waitingforourpod.com/?p=281#comment-783 Nice one. I've had a couple of hushed comments about the manner in our ckonception occurred, but I have nothing but pride in it. The kid is gonna know how much they were wanted, and the lengths we went to to make them. Well done, & congratulations. Nice one.

I’ve had a couple of hushed comments about the manner in our ckonception occurred, but I have nothing but pride in it.

The kid is gonna know how much they were wanted, and the lengths we went to to make them.

Well done, & congratulations.

]]> By: Betsy http://www.waitingforourpod.com/2009/07/06/half-way-out-of-the-closet/#comment-782 Betsy Thu, 09 Jul 2009 02:34:51 +0000 http://www.waitingforourpod.com/?p=281#comment-782 I am getting this constantly, mostly in the form of "oh, how long were you trying?" Somehow that's the new common question, right after "is it a boy or a girl?" I struggle with the same exact thing; not wanting to downplay the struggle and heartache but not wanting to share our story with the whole world. Also, I wouldn't want to make it seem easy breezy in case that person might be having trouble. I've decided to say "it was difficult for us, and took a while, so we're thrilled" and then change the subject. Some push it, and at that point I decide to go further into the story or not. I think IF and treatments are so talked about these days (John and Kate, etc.) that people think about it a little more, and expect full disclosure. I love your answer, it's very true, and to the point. It will be interesting to see how many nosy people try to dig deeper...there's always someone! I am getting this constantly, mostly in the form of “oh, how long were you trying?” Somehow that’s the new common question, right after “is it a boy or a girl?” I struggle with the same exact thing; not wanting to downplay the struggle and heartache but not wanting to share our story with the whole world. Also, I wouldn’t want to make it seem easy breezy in case that person might be having trouble. I’ve decided to say “it was difficult for us, and took a while, so we’re thrilled” and then change the subject. Some push it, and at that point I decide to go further into the story or not.

I think IF and treatments are so talked about these days (John and Kate, etc.) that people think about it a little more, and expect full disclosure. I love your answer, it’s very true, and to the point. It will be interesting to see how many nosy people try to dig deeper…there’s always someone!

]]> By: Carrie http://www.waitingforourpod.com/2009/07/06/half-way-out-of-the-closet/#comment-781 Carrie Wed, 08 Jul 2009 23:00:49 +0000 http://www.waitingforourpod.com/?p=281#comment-781 Truly annoying question. The questions, unfortunately, don't stop. Any time we go out in public we hear at least once, "Are they twins?" Yes. "Well, your dd is much bigger." Not by 9 months, you idiot (instead I just nod my head - yes they are twins). Then, you hear about the random person's best friends, sister's cousin having twins. But they run in the family, how about yours? "No." Time to walk away. Wouldn't it be nice if we could walk around with signs or flyers so we wouldn't have to answer such stupid questions? Truly annoying question. The questions, unfortunately, don’t stop.

Any time we go out in public we hear at least once, “Are they twins?” Yes. “Well, your dd is much bigger.” Not by 9 months, you idiot (instead I just nod my head – yes they are twins). Then, you hear about the random person’s best friends, sister’s cousin having twins. But they run in the family, how about yours? “No.” Time to walk away.

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could walk around with signs or flyers so we wouldn’t have to answer such stupid questions?

]]> By: Serendipity http://www.waitingforourpod.com/2009/07/06/half-way-out-of-the-closet/#comment-780 Serendipity Wed, 08 Jul 2009 20:02:10 +0000 http://www.waitingforourpod.com/?p=281#comment-780 That question is right up with my favourite comment of the moment - "congratulations, apparently there's loads of people getting pregnant at the moement because of the credit crunch people are having more sex and going out less" I nearly decked the co-worker who said this to me. people never cease to amaze me, I've come to the conclusion that there's a moron gene and 70% of the population has it. You handled it very well though, I would have been either sarcastic or rude depending on exactly how little I knew the person. That question is right up with my favourite comment of the moment – “congratulations, apparently there’s loads of people getting pregnant at the moement because of the credit crunch people are having more sex and going out less” I nearly decked the co-worker who said this to me.

people never cease to amaze me, I’ve come to the conclusion that there’s a moron gene and 70% of the population has it. You handled it very well though, I would have been either sarcastic or rude depending on exactly how little I knew the person.

]]> By: Another Dreamer http://www.waitingforourpod.com/2009/07/06/half-way-out-of-the-closet/#comment-779 Another Dreamer Wed, 08 Jul 2009 02:54:22 +0000 http://www.waitingforourpod.com/?p=281#comment-779 I don't understand why people ask some of those questions, yikes! Great response :) I don’t understand why people ask some of those questions, yikes!

Great response :)

]]> By: Ashley http://www.waitingforourpod.com/2009/07/06/half-way-out-of-the-closet/#comment-777 Ashley Tue, 07 Jul 2009 17:34:13 +0000 http://www.waitingforourpod.com/?p=281#comment-777 Wow, that brought tears to my eyes. I have never thought that us fertility challenged should be proud of what we have endured to get to the other side. Wow, that brought tears to my eyes. I have never thought that us fertility challenged should be proud of what we have endured to get to the other side.

]]> By: Beautiful Mess http://www.waitingforourpod.com/2009/07/06/half-way-out-of-the-closet/#comment-775 Beautiful Mess Tue, 07 Jul 2009 07:33:03 +0000 http://www.waitingforourpod.com/?p=281#comment-775 That is a very personal question. It would SEEM that common sense would stop them from saying it, but alas...it doesn't *sigh* Great answer though! That is a very personal question. It would SEEM that common sense would stop them from saying it, but alas…it doesn’t *sigh* Great answer though!

]]> By: lorza http://www.waitingforourpod.com/2009/07/06/half-way-out-of-the-closet/#comment-774 lorza Tue, 07 Jul 2009 05:46:02 +0000 http://www.waitingforourpod.com/?p=281#comment-774 Ugh. People. "Natural" indeed. It is amazing how familiar people feel like they can be with a woman once she is pregnant. (I obviously know nothing about it though) I have seen complete strangers rub my friend's belly, asking what position they did it in to get a boy, etc. Just makes me want to scream. Ugh. People. “Natural” indeed. It is amazing how familiar people feel like they can be with a woman once she is pregnant. (I obviously know nothing about it though) I have seen complete strangers rub my friend’s belly, asking what position they did it in to get a boy, etc.

Just makes me want to scream.

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