A Milestone of Sorts
Posted by Mr. ShelbyApr 13
Shelby and I have struggled for years with infertility. Throughout those years, we always talked about how morning sickness was something that we couldn’t wait to experience. Okay, maybe that is overstated, but we wanted at least some symptom of pregnancy to make it ‘real’ for us. P.rogesterone, L.upron, C.lomid all had their own side-effects, but we desperately wanted a symptom of something other than constant medication. I would always tease Shelby that she better be careful what she wishes for. Wish for a baby, not morning sickness! Shelby would always disagree with me. “No, I really want to be praying to the porcelain god without actually being hung over!”
Our first pregnancy resulted in very few symptoms that Shelby chalked up to “just not being one of those morning sick types of chicks.” Her mom was never sick, so maybe she lucked out, right? Sadly, we never got much farther than 10 weeks (well, my gut tells me that growth stopped around 7) so we’ll never know if the symptoms just didn’t kick in, or it could be that ‘every pregnancy is different.’ I always teased her that when she does end up making a mad dash to the toilet, that I’m going to be there to take a picture and remind her that she got her wish. Every time she looked a little green, I’d run to our office and grab our camera and scream “don’t puke yet! I’m not ready!!!”
On a side note, as we near our 10 week mark, I find myself growing increasingly nervous. This pregnancy, everything has been perfect. Our little gummy’s heart beat has been a strong 180bpm, it’s measuring exactly to the day, and we’ve seen it move on screen, (I still freak out when I think about that) but until we pass our 10.5 week date, I’m not going to be able really start feeling better. We don’t know why our last little bean didn’t make it, and I’m truly scared that we’ll face this again.
At some point this week, Shelby and I thought that her symptoms were leveling off. Her food aversions, and morning (ok, all day) sickness seemed to be getting better. Part of me worries when that happens, I know things change day-to-day, but there are also scary stories about symptoms just disappearing and not coming back. Dr. Google and I have a love/hate relationship. However, Shelby’s morning sickness came back with a vengeance this weekend, and my camera was ready. On Sunday, Shelby bolted passed me and slammed our bathroom door. Suddenly, I was like a tiger, laying low in the grass while stalking my prey. For a few seconds, I felt like the crocodile hunter, ‘oy, look at this beaut. She is definitely with child and looking a little green. Watch as I move in closer for a better look.’ After a few moments in the bathroom, Shelby stumbles out and I finally capture my prey. Luckily for me, it was a little out of focus, otherwise Shelby would have never agreed to letting me post it. As sick as she is in this shot, she looks beautiful to me. I will cherish this picture forever as it is a long awaited milestone, of sorts.

After 5 years, we still walk the path of infertility. 7 IUI's, 1 miscarriage, 1 IVF and tens of thousands of dollars later we find ourselves pregnant. The path is still not clear, but we take it one step at a time.



13 comments
Comment by Nina on April 13, 2009 at 11:25 am
Well, based on how I’m feeling at the moment, I doubt you or she will be fear free for long! Good luck!
Comment by Ashley on April 13, 2009 at 12:00 pm
This brought tears to my eyes, that you find your wife beautiful even when she is sick. That is the sweetest thing I have ever read.
Comment by Another Dreamer on April 13, 2009 at 1:22 pm
That’s great, that shot is definitely a keeper!
Great post
Comment by shelby on April 13, 2009 at 5:13 pm
Lovely. If you can lie in wait in the grass, so can I! <;P
Comment by Mr. S on April 13, 2009 at 5:21 pm
@shelby – Sounds like a deal. When I have morning sickness (that’s NOT a hangover) you can sneak a picture too.
Comment by Murgdan on April 13, 2009 at 6:31 pm
Dude, this must have been right before she kicked you in the face!!! Oh, my husband would SO do something like this…except he would have made a video…and posted it on YouTube.
Comment by Mr. S on April 13, 2009 at 6:32 pm
@Murgdan – OMG. Best. Idea. Evah!
Comment by Betsy on April 13, 2009 at 7:24 pm
Love this! As I scrolled down I was bracing for a toilet picture…this was much nicer. I’m hoping that you guys safely get past the 10.5 week mark and can feel a little bit better.
Comment by Mrs. M on April 14, 2009 at 4:11 pm
Umm, hilarious!! I seriously was dying laughing at the Crocodile Hunter part!! (RIP)
Congrats on your gummy bear, thinking good thoughts for you both!!!
Thanks for making me smile!!
Comment by banditgirl on April 15, 2009 at 2:31 pm
Mr. S, what a beautiful Impressionist art you created of the lady in the house! Have you thought about the paparazzo path as moonlighting (could help repay those loans)? I bet you would do great.
Comment by Mr. S on April 15, 2009 at 2:35 pm
@banditgirl – Somehow I think my career as a paparazzi is short lived.
In other news, the camera mysteriously went missing around the time this picture was taken. Shelby swears she has nothing to do with it. :-p
Comment by Sarang on April 16, 2009 at 12:57 pm
OMG. You are hysterical with the croc hunter impression. And Shelby is a saint. That camera would be in bits in my house, LOL.
Comment by JD on April 24, 2009 at 1:28 pm
wow, this made me get all misty-eyed, too!
thanks for your comment on my blog. iclw is helping me find the most amazing blogs! i love it!
i’ll be emailing a link to your blog to my dh. i wish i knew what was going on in his head sometimes.
xoxo
~j