8w3d Ultrasound
Posted by Mr. ShelbyApr 7
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Even after 2 ultrasounds on Friday, Shelby and I pulled into our doctors office for our graduation ultrasound feeling nervous. Please understand, we’re ultrasound junkies. They are our crack. Seriously, I think I could figure out how to administer one. Funny how no one from GE will return my calls regarding a quote for one and if they are willing to put it on layaway. Bastards.
After 45 minutes of hearts pulsing, Shelby disrobing, and our doctor probing we were able to see our little gummy bear. This is farthest we’ve ever been, and everything looks picture perfect. We could see our gummy’s arms, legs, and body moving independently almost as if it was doing a little jig. It was amazing, but I’m scared to let myself relax. I fear that if I allow myself to breathe some sigh of relief, I’ll jinx everything. If I just hold my breath a little longer, we’ll be that much closer.
If I allow it, I close my eyes and inhale the serenity that has been these past 8 weeks. There are a few things that will always be with me. They will never be taken from me regardless of the outcome.
- Hearing the joy in my parents voice when I rush out of the office and give them an update
- Coming home to Shelby after a long work day and kissing her tummy. There’s a sense of wholeness in our house, and I can’t quite put a name on it.
- Above all, the serene, beautiful, joyous look on Shelby’s face when we see how much our baby has grown. Her crystal blue eyes pierce the dark room and light up my soul.
Nothing will rob me of those memories, they have become my oxygen.
I can worry about breathing later, in the meantime, stay strong gummy bear. We’ll be waiting for you.
After 5 years, we still walk the path of infertility. 7 IUI's, 1 miscarriage, 1 IVF and tens of thousands of dollars later we find ourselves pregnant. The path is still not clear, but we take it one step at a time.



8 comments
Comment by shelby on April 7, 2009 at 5:05 pm
Yay. *sniff* I too have the same bated breath. I can’t imagine that anyone who has been through infertility and loss can view the process with the type of naivete that would let us just relax. It is our curse, but at this point in time, the anxiety feels worth it. Go gummy bear, go!
Comment by Mr. S on April 7, 2009 at 7:30 pm
On the list of “things I hope to forget”
I forgot to mention in my post that I quickly and politely declined when our doctor offered me a view of Shelby’s cervix. Yeah, I’ll pass. Thanks.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m way into being a part of everything, but I need to draw a line somewhere. I *do* want to be able to have sex again without the memory of her internals.
Comment by Another Dreamer on April 7, 2009 at 8:41 pm
Yay! I am glad things are still going well. Great appointment
Comment by Sarang on April 7, 2009 at 11:18 pm
Congrats Mr. and Mrs. S on your little gummy!
I can’t wait for the day you can both let your *held breaths* go…and breathe deeply~~~
(My own Mr. jokes that this will only happen upon babies’ college graduation for him. On that day, he’ll know “it all worked out after all”. lol.)
Comment by banditgirl on April 8, 2009 at 3:42 pm
Hella exciting internal developments, Mr. and Mrs. Shelby!
Hahaha, Sarang! Hopefully your Mr. can enjoy some moments before that baby turns 20!
Comment by Lost in Space on April 8, 2009 at 7:54 pm
Congrats you 2! Hoping each day gets a little easier….
Comment by Betsy on April 8, 2009 at 9:00 pm
This is beautiful! I’m glad you’re enjoying the moment and preserving these memories forever. Hopefully this is only the beginning. Go gummy bear!!!
Comment by musicmakermomma on April 9, 2009 at 7:05 am
Go gummy bear go! Cute u/s pic! I am so excited for you both. Good luck!